Unveiled Thought

Questions About Wearing a Hijab That You’re Too Embarrassed to Ask.

I love when people ask me questions about Islam. LOVE. IT. It means you’re showing an interest in who I am and what I believe instead of making assumptions. It gets me thinking about why I believe or do the things I do. I love it – keep them coming.

Over the years I’ve been asked some pretty adorable questions about wearing the hijab. I’m going to answer them for you in case you’re too embarrassed to ask. (If you want to know about why I wear it, you can read more here. )

The Luxy Sisters (http://www.luxyhair.com/pages/our-story) - I learned everything I know about hair from them. Even Muslimahs want to look fabulous.

The Luxy Sisters (http://www.luxyhair.com/pages/our-story) – I learned everything I know about hair from them. Even Muslimahs want to look fabulous.

Are you bald?

This is my absolute favourite. It has been asked so many times and it makes me laugh every time. No, m’dear. I’m not, there’s hair under there but it’s just all covered up. Muslim women will have all the same variation in hairstyles as your regular woman will. We do the long hair trends and short hair trends the ombre hair trends and the blonde streak trends.

So what do you do to your hair then?

Well! Okay this is my other favourite question. We’ll all do different things, depending on what’s comfortable. I like to tie my hair into a loose-ish bun. It keeps it all neat and out of the way and I don’t have to worry about a pony tail sticking out of the end of my hijab. I told one of the people who asked me if I was bald that the lump at the back of my head was just loose skin, and that’s why I wore a hijab. Oh dear. I’m sorry, girl. I was joking :(

How come your hijab doesn’t fall off?

I wear a cotton cap underneath all my hijabs that keeps my hair in place. Not all women do this. I know my mum doesn’t – in fact, it makes her feel suffocated. I love them because it means I can play with the colours and match them up with the hijab and outfit. The cap keeps it all together for me.

I sort of explained how I wear my hijab here (I also told you about other weird things I do with my hijab, so have fun).

Cotton cap - as you can imagine, it's hard to get this picture off a real Muslim girl.

Cotton cap – as you can imagine, it’s hard to get this picture off a real Muslim girl.

Have you ever pinned yourself with all dem pins? 

Never ever! I’m not even that careful – it’s just really difficult to pin yourself when you can feel and sense what you’re doing. Because I wear a cotton cap, most of my pins sit in the cap. The main one that falls under my chin to hold it all together is just a safety pin. Mum always says I’m going to choke on a pin – I tend to hold them in my mouth while I’m pulling it all together, but I’m learning to be better with that.

Do you have sex with a hijab on?

I should stop saying any of these questions is my favourite, because they’re all great. No, no we don’t. Well maybe, I don’t know – it may be a kink for some people. Women wear hijab when they are in the presence of males who they’re not related to, namely, anyone who isn’t their brother or father or uncle or son or nephew or husband. We call these mahrams ( محرم), which basically translates to non-permissibles which refers to marriage – you can’t ever marry those people so you don’t have to cover up around them. Cousins don’t count – you cover up around them because you could actually marry them.

Thusly, you can infer that you don’t cover up around your husband so you don’t have sex in a hijab (remember, no sexual relationships before marriage or you will die).

Can I see your hair?

Are you a woman? Are you my mahram? Sure. Otherwise, I’m sorry. You’re going to have to marry me.

Do your hijabs have to match your outfits?

No, I’m just incredibly stylish.

How do you colour-match all your hijabs with your outfits so well?

See above. Also, I’m smart. My mum and I go to this suburb in Sydney called Cabramatta. It is filled with drugs and fabric stores. AMAZING fabric stores where I can buy a meter of gorgeous fabric for about $4. When I go, I buy 30 or 40 scarves. I get insanely good discounts. I can pick all the amazing colours in all the fabulous shades I want. Patterns that I could’ve never imagined and textures one could only dream of. Each hijab costs me about $6 or $7. There are hijab shops all over the place too where they sell weird and wonderful hijabs with lots of glitter and things. It’s amazing.

Where do you get all your hijab-friendly clothes?

Well, we get resourceful. Know a place that sells plus size, maxi dresses? Me too, and I’m probably their walking wardrobe. City Chic used to be great. Asos makes me happy. There are plenty of hijab fashion stores too. A really popular one is Inayah, which is pretty popular or global hijab fashion which is just so full of beautiful styles. Hijab couture is a thing.

So… like. When there’s a special event, what do you do with your hijab?

Hijab styles are as varied as hair styles.

Hijab styles are as varied as hair styles.

You can get hijab-styles. I’m not even kidding. You go to a special salon where the lady does cool things on your head. These ladies are all over Facebook, like this one. It’s pretty bloody amazing.

What if you just want to do your own fancysmanchy hijab?

Don’t worry, there are plenty of tutorials on YouTube. I mean, look at this one – it’s called ‘Hijab Tutorial Pretty Bow Turban – From My Ariana Grande Makeup Tutorial‘. There are hundreds of thousands of them. Be warned, lots of ‘brothers’ go onto these pages to tell the women what sluts they are and that they are helping create an Islamic community of miscreants. Just don’t read the comments. Smart videos like this prevent people from commenting. YAY.

Do you wash your hijabs?

Yes.

How do you wash your hijabs?

My washing machine really liked to eat my pretty hijabs. To prevent that, I now wash my hijabs in those little lingerie bags. Keeps ’em nice and happy and in one piece.

Are you allowed to wash and cut your hair?

Hell yeah, girlfriend.

Can I compliment your hijab?

Of course you can. Beats you trying to rip it off or spitting in my face because you think I’ll spontaneously explode!

Can I touch your hijab?

Are you a woman? Are you my mahram? Sure. Otherwise, I’m sorry. You’re going to have to marry me.

Is it offensive to try on a hijab?

Not at all! In fact, it’s quite fun for everyone! I was wanting to have a ‘try a hijab day’ anyway. Let me know if you’re interested.

I have another weird question. Can I ask it?

Yes, of course!

Even if it’s inappropriate?

Especially if it’s inappropriate! ;)

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139 comments on “Questions About Wearing a Hijab That You’re Too Embarrassed to Ask.

  1. Philippa
    November 14, 2015

    Hello!
    I’ve just started wearing a hijab, and while looking at pictures and stuff I noticed a lot of times girls’ heads/hair look so big! Like way more than could actually be their hair. Is it really their hair and I’m just doing mine wrong? Or do they use something to fill out the scarf?

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    • unveiledthought
      November 14, 2015

      Hello, Philippa!

      People place hair clips and things under their hijabs to make their hair look bigger. It’s so funny to watch – definitely not my style, but it makes people happy! <3

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  2. Elena
    December 4, 2015

    I work with a Muslim woman and we are exchanging gifts I wanted to know if it would be rude of me to gift her a hijab, and I wanted to pick out a purple or maroon one. Do older women wear colored ones or is that more for the younger women?

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    • unveiledthought
      December 4, 2015

      That is so incredibly sweet! It wouldn’t be rude at all – I’m sure she would be incredibly touched by it. Maroon or purple work fine. I’m forever buying my mum pretty coloured hijabs :)

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  4. katherinekahyee
    December 8, 2015

    I see some muslim wear hijabs with like a few strains of their hair sticking out on purpose .. is that allow ? or do the hijab have to cover all the hair – just curious :O

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    • unveiledthought
      December 10, 2015

      Hi Katherine

      That’s an interesting question. I think it depends who you talk to – some people think that you have to cover your hair totally, others think that you can loosely wrap the hijab around your head and if there are loose strands – it’s okay. So I guess it depends on who you speak to :)

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  5. Suldwina
    December 8, 2015

    Do you have to practice the religion “Islam” in order to wear hijab ? I dont want appropriate your religion or culture . That’s why I’m asking

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    • unveiledthought
      December 10, 2015

      Of course not :) I get the appropriation question a lot and might write a post about it. I don’t think it’s cultural appropriation because women have been covering their hair for religious and cultural reasons for so long and across many cultures.

      So if you would like to wear the hijab (or head covering, really!) you should go for it! :D

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  6. Anthony
    December 14, 2015

    When Muslim women wear a headscarf, is it also obligatory to cover the neck as well? And also, does the style of hijab vary by culture?

    The reason for my question is that I watched a Buzzfeed video on hijab styles, and some people are blowing up in the comments that some of the styles don’t cover the neck and they said the Quran requires them to do so. However, I’ve seen real-life examples of hijabis, like the ones at my favorite West Chinese restaurant, who wear it by just covering their heads and leaving the neck exposed.

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    • unveiledthought
      December 26, 2015

      Hi Anthony

      I think I saw the video you’re talking about! Buzzfeed has been pretty cool about these things lately (they’re pretty cool about most things!)

      The way in which a Muslim woman chooses to cover up really depends on her interpretation of what the text says. My first post on the hijab (here – http://unveiledthought.com/2013/12/31/why-do-you-wear-hijab/) describes how I interpret the text. I take it to mean that everything should be covered. However, that’s mostly because I am going with the interpretation that in the text and in context makes sense. I can totally see how women take it to mean a loose covering over the head, which by proxy means that parts of their hair and neck still shows.

      So I guess it’s just a matter of perspective :)

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  7. Zaylia
    December 16, 2015

    Whoa. I just found this blog and…… thank God there’s someone in this world who isn’t offended by hijab questions! I was starting to think there was somethign wrong with me xD. Great job gir! I’ll be following you in the future (not stalking, okay? I do NOT stalk… well maybe I creep sometimes. But not stalking ;))

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    • unveiledthought
      December 26, 2015

      Hahaha I am so not offended by any questions! Throw ’em at me!

      Feel free to stalk away. I’m on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. Go nuts! Like all the things. Whatever floats your boat :P

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  8. Christina Germain
    December 31, 2015

    I was at a salon today and a woman wearing a hijab came in, one if the hairdressers is male and of course at any time male client could walk in. The woman asked to have her hair cut in a back room but one was not available so she agreed to just get her hair cut in front of the male hair dresser. She obviously felt uncomfortable but now what? Does she pray about this, tell someone, or is it just an uncomfortable situation. I was trying to explain this to my son but didn’t know if there were any ramifications for what happened.

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    • unveiledthought
      December 31, 2015

      Hi Christina

      Thanks for your question! I know that situation all too well – it’s incredibly difficult to find the right hairdresser. I’m lucky that my dad has a hidden talent and can cut my hair for me.

      In terms of ‘now what?’ for this woman; that’s a good question. There aren’t really any ramifications or a defined thing that she has to do.

      Generally speaking, if someone feels like they have done something that was not good, they look for ways to atone by doing good deeds – donating to a charitable cause or doing a nice thing for someone. This lady may have been relatively comfortable with removing her hijab around males and wouldn’t think twice about this event. I have friends who only wear a hijab sometimes, for example.

      It really just depends on the individual – but that is a great question!

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  9. askjade19
    January 5, 2016

    I really want to start hijab and cover, I do wear a veil on my head but it’s not as proper as a
    Hijab is. But I have these weird questions, like people would start to treat me differently
    and that maybe no one likes me after I’m covered. I know it’s extremely stupid but I want some
    motivation. Maybe you can help. :3

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    • unveiledthought
      January 26, 2016

      Hi Jade

      Sorry for the delay in responding – I’ve just found a bunch of comments in my spam filter!

      It’s possible that people will treat you differently once you cover up. It could be for the better; it may be for the worse. It really depends on the situation that you’re in. For the most part, you have to be comfortable with what you’re doing and remember that there will always be people who accept and love and respect you for who you are. Those who treat you in a bad way do not deserve your time or energy – just forget them.

      Good luck! Let me know if you have any specific questions that I can help you with.

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  10. Maryam
    January 13, 2016

    Hello there I have a question that iam not sure about.
    I do where a hijab and im wondering if my girlfriend is coming to see me can I keep my hijab of while my husband is home ? Or is even woman not really allowed to see my hair?

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    • unveiledthought
      January 26, 2016

      Hello Maryam! Thanks for your questions. You don’t have to wear a hijab when you are around women – it’s only in the presence of men that hijabi women have to cover up. When you’re around women, you just cover from your breasts to your knee, usually :)

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  11. Narda Beauchamp
    January 18, 2016

    I love that you are doing this blog! I just learned so much. I was boarding a plane late last night and I spontaneously complemented a woman on her “cotton cap” that was showing a few tiny rhinestones. She smiled and said thank you, but then I thought that maybe I was being disrespectful and worried until I found your blog this morning. Thank you for helping educate me as a Catholic woman and a person who respects all religions.

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    • unveiledthought
      January 18, 2016

      Thank you so much for your comment. I couldn’t help but grin – you’re such a darling!!

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  12. studio949
    January 30, 2016

    I am an artist, and have been working on a painting of a beautiful woman wearing a headscarf / hijab and it was recently brought to my attention that my painting may offend some Muslim people because she has her hair showing and it is the color blue. I asked why this would be offensive and the response was ‘because her hair is showing and it is blue, a strange color for hair’. It is not my intention to offend anyone and I didn’t even consider my painting to be religious or even culturally significant. I meant to portray a mysterious beauty in hiding. What is your opinion and advice? Many thanks to you!

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    • unveiledthought
      January 31, 2016

      Hello, there! Your piece sounds absolutely beautiful and rather than being offensive, I think it has the potential to portray veiled women in a humanised light. I would love to see it once you’re done!

      I don’t think it’s at all offensive :) Best wishes to you!

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      • studio949
        February 1, 2016

        Thank you so much for your swift response!, I am so happy to hear your thoughts, fantastic! I will finish my painting with peace now :). I will message you a link to the finished piece as well on my YouTube channel. By the way, I think you are just lovely!

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      • unveiledthought
        February 6, 2016

        You’re very welcome! Thanks for your kind words! I’d LOVE to see it!!

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  13. studio949
    January 30, 2016

    Oh and to add to my previous comment, I am female and enjoy painting female faces, if that makes a difference.

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